SELFISHNESS* (by Janine Mick Wills)

It’s all about me!

Let’s face it. We’re all selfish at times. When our desires rule our lives. They take what they want, when they want it, and it doesn’t matter who they trample on in the process.

OK, maybe that’s a bit dramatic (or not!), but we’ve all had times when we wanted to hold something to our breast and not share it. Of course, we know that’s wrong. Especially since God owns everything (Psalm 50:12 …for the world is mine, and the fulness thereof), and we can’t claim the right to anything He’s entrusted us with.

So, what can we do when selfish rears its ugly head? I’m glad you asked!

We should mirror Christ.


Christ is the perfect example of selflessness. And in ALL things we need to be like Him.

Matthew 20:28 Even as the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many.
John 13:14, 15 If I then, your Lord and Master, have washed your feet; ye also ought to wash one another’s feet. For I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to you.
Romans 15:3 For even Christ pleased not himself; but, as it is written, The reproaches of them that reproached thee fell on me.


God created us, saved us, sustains us, and promises a bright and hopeful future. We are nothing outside of Him

John 15:5 I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.
Acts 17:28 For in him we live, and move, and have our being; as certain also of your own poets have said, For we are also his offspring.
James 1:17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.


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Christ, our supreme example of sacrifice and service

Our lives should be about God and others and not ourselves. We need to please God first, and then look upon the needs of others.

Luke 9:23-25 And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: but whosoever will lose his life for my sake, the same shall save it. For what is a man advantaged, if he gain the whole world, and lose himself, or be cast away?
Romans 15:1, 2 We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let every one of us please his neighbour for his good to edification.
Galatians 6:10 As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.
Philippians 2:3, 4 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.


We shouldn’t hoard our time and possessions. It’s easy to do when we have so much to do, and we think we don’t have enough to share in the first place. But God thinks otherwise.

1 Peter 4:9, 10 Use hospitagiftlity one to another without grudging. As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.
1 Corinthians 10:24 Let no man seek his own, but every man another’s wealth.
Acts 2:44, 45 And all that believed were together, and had all things common; And sold their possessions and goods, and parted them to all men, as every man had need.

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Take care of the man of God!


We’re not the only ones who sometimes struggle to pay our bills. It can happen to pastors as well. This ought not to be so. We need to provide physical means
to the men who tale care of our spiritual means.

1 Timothy 5:18 For the scripture saith, Thou shalt not muzzle the ox that treadeth out the corn. And, The labourer is worthy of his reward.
2 Corinthians 8:4, 5 Praying us with much intreaty that we would receive the gift, and take upon us the fellowship of the ministering to the saints. And this they did, not as we hoped, but first gave their own selves to the Lord, and unto us by the will of God.

So, you ask, “That’s all well and good, but if I give and do only for others, what do I get out of the deal?”

I’m glad you asked again! 😊


God will not owe any man, and He certainly will take care of His children.

Luke 11:11-13 If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent? Or if he shall ask an egg, will he offer him a scorpion? If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?
Proverbs 11:24 There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty.
Proverbs 11:26 He that withholdeth corn, the people shall curse him: but blessing shall be upon the head of him that selleth it.
Luke 6:38 Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.

I don’t know about you, but the Holy Spirit spoke to me as I wrote this blog. How about you while you read it? Are you selfish in any area of your life? If so, confess it as sin (1 John 1:9) and ask God to help you exchange selfishness for His selflessness.

*The following has been modified from a counseling project I completed while attending Ambassador Baptist College. I pray it will help those struggling with selfishness.

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