ME AND MY BIG MOUTH! (By Janine Mick Wills)
Have you ever said to yourself, “Me and my big mouth”? Or have you ever stuck your foot so deep into your mouth it would take an act of Congress to pull it out? Been there done that. I remember when Jason was a baby, a friend of mine and I went to visit the neighbor. She wasn’t around, so I started talking to my friend about what a horrible housekeeper my neighbor was. Guess what? She was right around the corner and heard me! Or the time I asked a lady at church if she was pregnant, and she wasn’t! Where’s that zipper when you need it?
Proverbs 17:28 says, “Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.”
Even though I try to control my yappy jaws, I have to admit that verse convicts me. Not necessarily because I am a fool, though I’ve done some foolish things. But because I do talk, and talk, and talk. Just ask my family! (OK, don’t ask them. “In the mouth of two or three witnesses shall every word be established,” – 2 Corinthians 13:1 – and I don’t want them to have to testify against me in a court of law!).
My loose lips work overtime around my sister Tammy. There’s no one quite like a sister to share things with. I know. It should be our husbands. But it’s not the same thing. Sisters were with us from the beginning. Husbands entered the picture after we supposedly grew up!
Tam and I have a history. Now that we’re older, we can talk for hours about the past (Often repeating the same story because we forget what we’ve said before), about what we did five minutes ago (Which sometimes makes the conversation short for the afore-mentioned reason), or about our cats (I have one; she has four) and my twelve chickens (I can go on and on about my girls!).
Tam & I in Dallas, TX
Sometimes I tell her, “I don’t know how I can find so many things to talk about. I haven’t done much since the last time I talked to you!” But then I wind up and let ‘er rip! I sometimes even amaze myself! I’m just sorta like that. Way too much bottled up inside. It all comes out in a whoosh! I pity the poor person, who’s nearby when I start waxing eloquently (or not so eloquently).
Seriously, I pray my words are from the abundance of a good heart (Luke 6:45). For God wants us to practice discretion when we speak. The Bible says a fair woman without discretion is “as a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout” (Proverbs 11:22). That’s not a pretty picture, is it?
Sadly, we women have a reputation for being gossips or catty. I think it’s because we sometimes lack self-esteem and tearing down another person builds us up in our own eyes. The sad thing is, as we climb the ladder of self-esteem, we cut off the rungs to those who might follow.
I can see James shaking his head. “Lord, I don’t understand. How can they ‘bless God, even the Father; and therewith curse men, which are made after the similitude of God’ ” (James 3:9).
Earlier in that chapter (verse 2) James said, “If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body.” If we can control our words, it will be a simple thing to keep our bodies under control!
James went on to say, “But the tongue can no man tame: it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison” (verse 8). Another less-than-pretty picture!
Fortunately, James gives us a solution for our wagging tongues in verse 13 “Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom.”
Let’s break down that verse.
1) First, wisdom comes from God, and He gives it liberally to all who ask (James 1:5). That’s not a card Blanche to ask for knowledge about anything we want. Verse six says we need to ask for wisdom in faith.
That verse bothered me because it said a person, who asks for wisdom, should not waiver. If she does, she won’t receive of what she asks. I figured the very fact I needed wisdom meant I was wavering. And to make matters worse I thought since I wavered, I was unstable in all my ways (verse 8). It wasn’t a confidence builder for getting wiser!
But I know now that asking God for wisdom is acknowledging Him as the only One Who can give it. This is not being double-minded (From the Greek word dipsuchos, which means “of two spirits” or “to vacillate”). It’s being single minded and determined!
2) A person “endued with knowledge” is one that fears God (Proverbs 1:7). This individual’s life is controlled by the Spirit of God.
3) A person controlled by the Spirit of God shows forth “a good conversation” not only in her words but also in her works. She lets her walk match her talk (James 1:22 But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves).
4) Her works are not done for wealth, fame, or self-gratification but in meekness because she is wise. Her soul intent is to humbly glorify the Lord and bring honor to His name (Psalm 66:2).
So, if you’re like me and you find your mouth sometimes running faster than your mind; stop and ask God for wisdom in your speech. See if your words become more “fit”, as to be “apples of gold in pictures of silver” (Proverbs 25:11). That’s sure a lot purtier than a pig’s snout!