DOES GOD REALLY LOVE ME? (By Janine Mick Wills)
Have you ever wondered, “Does God really love me?”
Throughout most of my life, I longed for unconditional love. My mother loved me to the best of her ability. But her lack of self-esteem trickled down to me and my two sisters. Though proud of our accomplishments, she quickly pointed out how we could improve.
“Janine, you made all A’s and one B on your report card. If you had only made one more A…”
With a sigh, I’d roll up my scholastic sleeves and try harder. In my heart, I knew even straight A’s would not satiate my mother’s desire for perfect daughters.
Things fared no better with my father. Orphaned at a young age and reared by maiden aunts, he lacked the capacity to receive and give love. Only once do I remember him saying, “I love you,” and his physical contact was not paternal.
Psychologists agree a child’s formative years determine her ideal of God. Though I don’t blame them now, my parents’ conditional love made it difficult for me to see God’s unconditional love (See “GROWING IN GRACE”).
Even after I was saved, I struggled with Galatians 3:1-3.
O foolish Galatians, who hath bewitched you, that ye should not obey the truth, before whose
eyes Jesus Christ hath been evidently set forth, crucified among you? This only would I
learn of you, Received ye the Spirit by the works of the law, or by the hearing of faith? Are
ye so foolish? having begun in the Spirit, are ye now made perfect by the flesh?
In my heart I knew the Spirit saved me through faith, and the flesh could not make me perfect and obtain more favor with God. But in my head, I never felt good enough or unequivocally loved. It didn’t help Galatians 3:3 called me “foolish” for not believing God!
Now to my utmost delight, I have learned that while my parents’ love may have been unconditional, God’s never was. My closed, confused heart had hidden the light of His love.
I’ve discovered God not only loves me, He also delights in me (Psalm 16:3; Proverbs 11:20, 12:22, 15:8). He’s concerned about my every thought and action.
I’ve discovered God delights in me.
Are you now where I once was? Have you ever thought…?
- No matter how hard I try, no one truly loves me, not even God.
- No once accepts me unconditionally: warts, sins, and all.
- God can’t love me because of sins I committed either before or after I was saved.
- Even though I am saved, I sin every day. The Bible says God hates sin, so how can He love me?
My dear Sister in Christ, that little voice inside your head is lying! And we know who the father of all lies is. The Devil!
God does not speak to you in a snarky, little voice. And His intentions for you are always good (Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end).
Satan is not omnipresent, so he might not be the one speaking to you. It could be his henchmen. Or it could be your soul’s lack of faith. Regardless, you need to kick that little voice to the curb!
No matter what we do, we cannot earn God’s love before salvation. Jesus paid it all on Calvary. And no matter what we do, we cannot earn God’s love after salvation. He does not love you because you do. He loves you because you ARE. You are His child!
He loves you because you are His child!
Banish your doubts of God’s love with any of the following affirmations:
- God is the perfect, all-loving God.
- God doesn’t love in degrees. He would not be perfect if He did.
- God can’t love me any more than He does right now, and He can’t love me any less.
- God loves me as much today as He will tomorrow and throughout all eternity.
- I can’t earn God’s love because Christ already proved that love on Calvary!
- God cares about every area of my life.
- God doesn’t love me some. He loves me with all His being.
- God wants the very best for me.
- Every area of my life interests God.
- God leans down from heaven with great interest and anticipation waiting for me to talk to Him.
- God longs for me to love Him as much as He loves me.
When I started my spiritual journey some months ago, I told the Lord I wasn’t seeking Him with my whole heart (Jeremiah 29:13 And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with ALL your heart). But I was seeking. And I knew only God had the answers I desperately needed.
From that simple prayer, my growing in grace journey began. Little by little my distorted ideals of God faded to reveal a loving Father, Who wants a relationship with me. Each step of faith and obedience opened doors of which I now gladly and, most of the time, bravely enter. It’s been an amazing transformation and nothing less than miraculous!
The good news is you can experience God’s unconditional love too. And you don’t have to wait another second. You can have it right now!
If you’ve never accepted Christ as you Savior, you need to take care of that first. Please go to “How to Know You Have Eternal Life”.
If you are saved, pour your heart out to God. He’s waiting for you to confess your unbelief.
Then “Be still” (Psalm 46:10) and get ready to know your God!
John 14:17 …but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you.