WHAT ATTRACTED DAVID TO ABIGAIL? (by Janine Mick Wills)
Have you ever wondered what attracted David to Abigail, Nabal’s wife? (1 Sam. 25:1-42) Yes, we know David’s eye was prone to wander, and he had at least eight wives and ten concubines (Why a man would want that many women underfoot, I have no idea!). And yes, Abigail had a beautiful countenance (verse 3). But Abigail was “the complete package” or “the whole ball of wax”. David saw godly qualities in her. He also knew the Lord had blessed him through her (verses 32-34).
But Abigail just didn’t wake up one morning and decide to be a godly woman. No! She was a godly women way before meeting David. Verse 2 says, “She was a woman of good understanding.” Her knowledge had been cultivated through years of seeking God’s face and will. Otherwise, she would have been hard pressed to put up with the likes of Nabal (A nod to those of you who live with unsaved husbands or saved ones who aren’t living for God).
What were some of Abigail’s godly or good characteristics? You will see many of them parallel the Proverbs 31 woman.
- She more than likely helped Nabal become financially prosperous – verse 2, 6 (Proverbs 31:11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.)
- She had good understanding – verse 3 (Psalm 111:10 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do his commandments: his praise endureth for ever.)
- She had a beautiful countenance – verse 3 Beautiful inside; beautiful outside (Proverbs 31:30b …a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.)
- She submitted even to a churlish husband, who was evil in his doings (Hebrew word “qasheh” meaning cruel, grievous, hard-hearted, impudent, obstinate, stiff-necked, stubborn) – verse 3 (1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives.)
- She listened and had the confidence of those under her authority – verses 14-17 (Proverbs 31:27a She looketh well to the ways of her household…)
- She did not procrastinate – verse 18a (Proverbs 31:15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.)
- She stretched out her hand to those outside her household – verse 27 (Proverbs 31:20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.)
- She ran her household well – verse 18b (Proverbs 14:1a Every wise woman buildeth her house…)
- She used discretion/wisdom in dealing with her husband – verses 19, 36, 37 (1 Peter 3:2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.)
- She humbled herself in the face of authority – verses 23, 24 (Mark 12:17 Render to Caesar the things that are Caesar’s, and to God the things that are God’s.)
- She showed bravery – verses 23, 24 (Psalm 31:24 Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all ye that hope in the LORD.)
- She had spiritual discernment – verses 28-31 (Hosea 14:9 Who is wise, and he shall understand these things? prudent, and he shall know them? for the ways of the LORD are right, and the just shall walk in them: but the transgressors shall fall therein.)
- She had a servant’s heart/humble spirit – verse 41 (John 12:26 If any man serve me, let him follow me; and where I am, there shall also my servant be: if any man serve me, him will my Father honour.)
- She went where her husband went – 2 Samuel 2:1, 2 (Ruth 1:16 And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God.)
- She didn’t complain or seek her own glory (David had other wives) – vs 43; 1 Samuel 18:17 (John 6:38 And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God.)
After reading about Abigail, do you find some godly qualities lacking in your life? Is your heart’s desire to be more like Abigail, a godly woman, who loved the Lord? You can be, you know? Pray and ask God to forgive you for where you’ve failed Him (1 John 1:9) and ask Him to help you be the kind of woman, who pleases Him (
Pray and ask God to forgive you for where you’ve failed Him (1 John 1:9) and ask Him to help you be the kind of woman, who pleases Him (1 John 5:14 And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us). Then rest in the assurance He will help you become the woman you and He desire you to be (1 John 5:15 And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him).